Speaking life into her

Speaking life into her

Hey parents, I know that dealing with your own kids can feel like you are looking at a younger version of yourself in the mirror. This can be super scary. But the reality is that she is NOT you. She has her own identity and will discover the good and bad that this world has to offer. Maybe you had the privilege of having support growing up. (That's fantastic) Or maybe you are like some of us that had to figure it out ourselves. No matter your story it is your responsibility to prepare her for the future. The bible says train up a child in the way she should go, when he is old, he will not depart. Use the time that you have with her to speak life into her.

There is a power in speaking that many do not know. Words are truly powerful. The bible says life and death are in the power of the tongue. You can bless with your words and also curse. Bless your daughter. Speak life into her. Speak positivity in front of her. She is learning from you. With your words she is becoming ... So, tell her the truth, she is blessed and highly favored. Tell her that she is beautiful, tell her that she is smart. Uplift her so that she not only believed these words are true, but she also gets the validation from home and won't have to go looking for it from friends, or strangers.

You have dealt with people that flattered you with words and pulled the rug from under you before. Prepare her by telling her the truth, Build her self-esteem up. Teach her who she really is. This is your responsibility. You can teach her and allow her to grow in Christ. See she won't need anyone's applause or validation because you would help build her confidence. A confidence grounded in Christ is a force.

Sometimes a child's first bully is their own parent. This can mold the way that she grows up to see herself as an adult. This can create unhealthy attachments to partners with similar traits of the very parent that abused them (physically, emotionally). This child grows up into a young lady with no direction looking for someone else to fill the void that only God could. Use your words to educate your daughters. Teach them about God. Explain his love and sacrifice of dying on the cross. Be her support.

If you do not someone else will. The devil is like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour. His goal is to make us forget our godly identity. Just like he did with Eve in the book of genesis, He confused her. He fooled her by posing a question to her making her believe that who God told her she was not enough. We have to tell our daughters the truth. Speak life into her and be a positive role model to our babies. Words are powerful don't you forget.

Tell her

"You are going to have a beautiful day today."

"You are special."

"I love you. "

"You are so talented. Everything that you touch turns into gold."

" You are the head and not the tail."

"You will ace those final exams because God has your back."

"Don't give up yet "

"Don't be afraid God will never leave you nor forsake you. "

" It's okay if you don't fit in ...you were never meant to ...different is beautiful"

-Encourage her to be positive and use the bible stories like Esther and Ruth as examples of how Godly women can be used by God to move a nation.